Living & Dying
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IMDB rating: 4.70 Plot: Two killers turn the tables on a trio of robbers when they find themselves in a hostage situation. Surrounded by the police, the robbers must become the heroes before the killers execute everyone. |
Actors: Zembrod Tom,Furlong Edward,Ripke Maurice,McGee Robin,Wayne Curtis,Haaga Trent,Coleman Brady,Action,Crime,Thriller,
Basic training is coming up, and I feel like I want to throw up. Going to miss my family.. 
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Ugh. I’m 19, and enlisted into the army, because I knew it would be best for me. Anyways, I’m basically a college dropout, who always quit everything he started. I’m pretty much ready to join, it’s just.. going away from my family. I mean I know people go through it everyday, but leaving my family is just really hard, it’s making me want to throw up just thinking about it. Not only will I be gone for a long time, but if/when I get out, I’ll be 24. Which means I will be getting my own place… Will I eventually get over this? If so, how long? Is it normal to miss your family this much? I mean I know how much they’ve done for me, and I really want to return the favor. With that said, I also just keep thinking about the family things we’d do, like whenever a new metal gear comes out, we play it as a family, well me an my dad would play, and my mom would usually observe, or basically research what to do lol. My parents also feel the army would be good for me, but they’re also very sad that I’m going. I mean I’m really close to my parents, never got out too much as a kid, so I was around my family a lot. I just keep having bad dreams and thoughts though, like how I won’t be able to see my family often, how things may never be the same again. Or, if I end up dying, which would destroy both my parents, and me just watching them. Sorry if this seems out there, I’m just basically listing stuff that comes to mind. Anyways, the two main questions are: Is it normal for me to feel this way? Will I get over it, and be fine living on my own?
Oh, some other questions too, which may sound a bit weird. I never made too many REAL friends. Just never been fond of the people around me, so I made online friends, some who I’ve known for about 5 years. Should I just let them go? I haven’t been contacting them, even when they try to contact me. I’m worried they’ll end up holding me back or something. ((I was addicted to online games because of them.))
Thanks so much to all who answer, I know this is a lot, but it would really help me A LOT.
Dude it will either make or break you……………….on the positive side you’ll lean self sufficiency, develop more self confidence and make true and reliable friends.
Stick it out trust me you’ll be better for it
zot | Feb 04, 2010
It is absolutely normal to miss your family! I will be enlisting in the Marines and I have always been afraid of death and being lonely, and it will go away after a while, but it will be extremely bad at first, but you will get used to it, and when those 9 weeks are up you will not regret joining the Army.
My family absolutely hates the idea of me enlisting, but when i’m 18 I will be off to San Diego in no time.
And if you’re afraid of death just don’t get combat MOS in the Army, if you want a combat MOS I guarantee you will find one.
As for your online friends, I guess you could contact them but if you’re gonna do it do it soon.
Sniper hound | Feb 04, 2010
everyone goes through this, and if they say they didn’t they were either lying or running away from their problems. After a couple of weeks in boot camp you come to depend on the other recruits around you and form a strong bond with them for the future. Trust me, if your parents support this, then you have great parents, just think how proud they will be of you when you graduate. As far as when you get out, the military will give you all the confidence and knowledge that you will need to find a job and live on your own. You might even like it so much, you might go a full 20 years. Your friends on-line, it’s fine to talk to them, but all you’re basically doing is talking to a computer. You will have so many friends when you are in the service, because it’s not a job, it’s a brotherhood. When you’re fifty or sixty, you will still be talking to the people that you knew in the service. We are all friends, because we have to depend on each other. Congratulations on enlisting, you will enjoy it.
tru2corps | Feb 04, 2010
Nothing out of the ordinary for you to miss your family. You will make it as long as you stay positive and focused on the mission ahead of you. Family will be there when you come back. Man up
click66441 | Feb 04, 2010
There is a day or two down time at first that you might feel anxious but once you start into it you will be too busy to think about much else and the time will fly by.
John W | Feb 04, 2010
Oh brother you are going through exactly what im going through now,I think the best thing to do is switching to Reserve,that what im trying to do now,I got into the Navy active duty,i didnt qualify for the Navy reserve. 4 years is F**king long time, i was in army active duty for 3 years, did 2 years in Iraq,man i hate it. im pretty much like you,a family guy who love his family more than any thing on the planet. however,its up to you,being in the Reserve is working only 1 weekend in month in your home state,and 2 weeks in summer,but the Benefit is not that great, they will pay some or your college but almost nothing for you,and you can get call up to go active any time,but at least you won’t be working 24/7 for some higher douchbags,and you will be close to you friends and family and be able to have a civilian job,Think about it
Wolf | Feb 04, 2010
Hello
WOW! It "IS" time for you to get away from your family.
What do you think the purpose of parents having children in this world is? Let me tell you. The purpose for having children is to grow them up so that they can become adults and carry on the family name and genes and reproduce and keep the "family" line alive for hundreds of years.
If that were not true there would be no reason for people to bring forth children. You are supposed to learn what your grandparents and great grandparents did in their life and that they make your parents and your parents made you. Then, YOU are supposed to lead a better life than your parents have lived in their lifetime. That is why they educated you and trained you to take up where they left off. That is what you owe your parents. You don’t owe them living in their house all your life.
You are supposed to go out into the world and make it a better place for them to live in in their old age and to do better than then did.
Now, everyone for about 24 hours misses their parents that very first night in basic training. But, that lasts for a few moments until you fall asleep exaushted from your first day of being ordered around doing stuff that you don’t understand.
Then, at "O-Dark-Thirty" your Drill Instructor and his/her assistant will make so much noise to wake you up out of your sound baby sleep that you will hit the deck with your feet running getting dressed in 2 minutes and falling outside the barracks in formation to march to chow.
You won’t have time to miss anybody. You will make new friends of the 50 people who with be in your barracks/flight/squad or whatever they like to call it today.
You won’t have time to think of your "Internet" friends. You won’t be able to use the Internet for the next 12 weeks or longer, anyway.
I enlisted in the Air Force when I was 19 also. I served for 27 years. Being 24 years old is nothing. 24 is so young that you have a long, long time to grow and mature more. You won’t feel like an adult, confident until you are at least 30 years old anyway.
Your parents did not do any "favors" for you. There is nothing to return. You parents did for you what they did out of love. You show them that you can be an adult and love them back and that’s all that they need from you.
Maybe later on, when you are successful and they are old you will help them in their senior years. But, most parents don’t want anything from their children only to see them happy and successful and with their own family and children. Parents love to be grandparents. It brings back their youth and it brings YOU back to them in the form of your children. Your children substitue for the young child you once were when you were a baby and small child when your parents were raising you.
Best wishes, and don’t worry.
If you want to worry… learn the "General Orders of s Sentry" You are going to have to know them by heart?
"Private? What is your 5th General Order?"
These are the 3 new ones.
http://usmilitary.about.com/od/armyjoin/ l/blbasicgenorder.htm
I want you to also learn the old ones, too!
I want you to learn the original 11 General Orders of a Sentry.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/General_Ord ers_for_Sentries
Best wishes,
Larry Smith
Senior Master Sergeant, USAF (Ret.)
First Sergeant
LarrySmile | Feb 04, 2010
relax and breathe =D Your about to be a soldier! You should be excited and feel proud and honored!!!! It is very normal for all this to be running through your head, I did some time in the Navy, and let me tell you, even after you have been in for 4 years and have done a couple "tours", you will STILL always miss your family back home. But you have to be strong, for them and yourself. You are about to do what many cannot do, and like someone above said, it WILL, either make or break you. Dont let it break you hun. In bootcamp, it helps to just go, sit on the toilet (if you can) and BREATHE!!! 8 weeks isnt that long, although it will seem like forever while your there. And, dont think about dieing, and if worse does come to worse…it will make your parents very sad yes, however, they will know their son died in a very honorable way. You will go in there a boy and come out a man to be respected.
And yes i would just let your online friends go if you are worried they will hold you back. You will make TONS of new friends in the Army
Hope this helps you!Brok3nh3eart3d | Feb 04, 2010
I was gone for 6 months straight. I didn’t miss my family one bit. I was having too much fun training. It will fly by my friend and the military will make you a better person and you will make lifetime friends there as well!
Wes | Feb 04, 2010
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